Our Granddaughter Sent Us a Note with Disgusting Text Demanding $5000 — So We Decided to Teach Her a Lesson
When our granddaughter Sarah shared her wedding plans, my husband Jim and I were overjoyed. We immediately began discussing how we could contribute to making her special day truly memorable. However, our happiness was short-lived when we received a letter from Sarah a few days later.
The letter included a $5,000 quote for a vacation she wanted with her fiancé, accompanied by a note that cut deep: “I want a vacation with my fiancé on my birthday this year. Pay for it. I hope you saved up enough after years of cheap trash gifts for me.”
This request felt like a slap in the face, especially considering all we had done for Sarah over the years. We’re not wealthy, but we’ve always tried to support her as best as we could. We’ve given her handmade quilts, heirloom jewelry, and even helped with the down payment for her car and covered some of her college expenses. We thought these gifts were meaningful to her.
As we sat at our kitchen table with the letter in front of us, I was overwhelmed by a mix of anger and hurt. “Can you believe this?” I asked Jim, fighting back tears. “After everything we’ve done for her?”
Jim was just as disappointed. “This is just plain wrong,” he said. “We’ve given her so much, and this is how she shows her appreciation?”
Despite our sadness, a firm resolve began to grow within me. “We can’t let this go,” I said. “She needs to learn that actions have consequences.”
Jim agreed. Together, we made the difficult decision to collect everything we had ever given Sarah. It was a painful choice, but we felt it was necessary to teach her a lesson in gratitude and respect.
We started in the attic, where I had stored the quilts I made for Sarah over the years. Each one represented countless hours of work and was made with love. We carefully packed them into a box, hoping that one day she might recognize their true value. Next, we moved to the guest room where Sarah often stayed, gathering the heirloom jewelry I had given her—pieces rich in history and personal significance. Finally, we collected photographs and mementos from family trips and holidays, each one a reminder of the joyful moments we had shared.
Our final step was to withdraw our financial support for Sarah’s wedding. We contacted the wedding planner and explained our decision. It was a heartbreaking move, but we refused to allow ourselves to be taken for granted any longer.
We also wrote Sarah a letter, hoping it would prompt her to reflect on her actions:
“Dear Sarah,
Your recent letter deeply hurt us. We have always given you our love and support, not out of obligation, but out of love. Your words and actions show a lack of gratitude and respect that we cannot ignore. We hope this difficult experience will help you reflect on your behavior and learn the importance of appreciation and humility. Love isn’t about material gifts; it’s about valuing the people who care for you. We hope you understand our decision and take this opportunity to grow.
Love always,
Grandma and Grandpa”
With heavy hearts, we donated the items we had collected to an orphanage. The next day, Sarah called us, furious. “How could you do this to me? You’re supposed to love and support me! You’re ruining my wedding and my life!”
I tried to stay calm as I replied, “Sarah, we do love you. But love is not about giving in to every demand. It’s about helping you become a better person. You need to learn gratitude and respect.”
She hung up, leaving us in silence. We knew our decision would hurt her, but it was still difficult to hear her so angry. In the days that followed, word spread through the family. Some relatives sided with Sarah, while others supported our actions.
Despite the fallout, Jim and I stand by our decision. We hope that, in time, Sarah will reassess her attitude and learn the importance of appreciation and respect. Love isn’t about indulging every whim; it’s about guiding loved ones toward growth and maturity.